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Normalcy Bias- Part 4

Happy Friday!  This week fleeeeeew right by.  It’s funny how God is using this blog like Jumanji for my life– the personal issues and instances that He’s bringing into my path are so parallel to what I’ve been talking about here.  We learn as we teach!

I debated whether or not to include today’s “topic” in the Normalcy Bias series, but, it matches up so well and explores a whole other side of NB that I think needs to be addressed, so I just want to touch on it briefly.

This will, I think, be the last “installment” so to speak of the NB series, but I do plan on referencing it in future posts.  I hope these realizations continue to bless you as you recognize them in your life.

I want to call this last type of normalcy bias “The Bubble.”  It’s a little bit different than the ones we’ve seen so far.  This type of bias happens when a person is simply totally blind to the dams in their life and is living contentedly.    They don’t have, or don’t believe they have (most often the case), any huge areas of sin to deal with.  They may not be struggling with addiction or sex or deceit or any of the “big sins” we seem to think of.  Instead of moving toward Maturity, they drop the Anchor of Complacency, blow up the I’m Good Enough Bubble, and never move anywhere:


They perch themselves high above the tops of their dams, out of view of the problems piling up on their Rivers of Faith.  They look out over Maturity, and deceive themselves into thinking they are really there, when in reality they are moving nowhere.

Their sins are not necessarily the visible kind, but the internal kind that wreak havoc on the soul:  anxiety, worry, greed, pride, complacency.

I find myself blowing up the bubble and anchoring down all too often.  I get complacent in my journey down the river and decide to go no further.  Here’s the catch-  if you anchor down long enough, the current of your river can begin to switch directions, uprooting your anchor and dragging you backward, leaving you languishing in Immaturity.

We commonly call this Lukewarm Christianity.

God hates lukewarmness.

“I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot.  I wish you were either one or the other!  So, because you are lukewarm–neither hot nor cold–I am about to spit you out of my mouth.”  (Revelation 3:15-16) 

“For the waywardness of the simple will kill them, and the complacency of fools will destroy them; but whoever listens to me will live in safety and be at ease, without fear of harm.”  (Proverbs 1:32-33)

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”  (Galatians 6:9)

Complacency is such a dangerous place to be.  Slowly and quietly the drift begins to happen, and the princess begins to look more and more like the peasants.  We, however, are royalty, adopted as daughters of the one true King, His little princesses.  We get to call Him “Daddy.”

“…but you received the Spirit of sonship.  And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.”  The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children.  Now if we are children, then we are heirs–heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory” (Romans 8:15-17).

Burst your I’m Good Enough bubble and put your princess dress on.  Your Daddy, the King, calls to you from Maturity.  Hear his voice, pull up your anchor of complacency, and go find Him!

“You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”  Jeremiah 29:13


Normalcy Bias- Part 3

Good morning!  Jumping right in today!

So, we’ve been talking about normalcy bias, which is a person’s tendency toward “normalizing” things that are “out-of-the-norm.”  We looked at how our universe is nothing normal at all and how it screams praises to its creator.  Then, yesterday, we looked at what I am calling “Normalcy Bias Type 1,” which is the kind that takes place before the “dam.”  Specifically, we looked at what it looks like when that dam is unconfessed sin or sin that hasn’t been dealt with.  It may also be a command from God that we get stuck at (this is similar to what we will be talking about today, so I’m just going to move ahead).


Today, we’ll look at what I’ll call Normalcy Bias Type 2, or that which occurs after the dam is demolished.  These two types are, in my experience, ways that my flesh keeps me from Maturity.

Oop, here comes Sally now….

Type 2 Normalcy Bias:

Sally:  “Wow, God!  I can’t believe what you’ve been doing in my life!  I can’t believe how clearly you spoke to me, that was CRAZY!  I’m so excited to XYZ like you’ve called me to now.  I can’t believe I didn’t see it before!  Your voice was so clear!  Well, I kind of remember it being clear.  It’s only been a couple of days but it seems like forever ago.  Did you really say that?  You know what?  Maybe you didn’t say that!  Maybe I just came up with it on my own!?  I know that in that moment I couldn’t have been more sure about anything in the world, but I’m out of that moment now.  And now I’m starting to doubt if that is really what you said after all.  I mean, Saintly Suzy does ABC, and she’s a believer, so it must be okay.  Maybe you just wanted me to think about what it would be like if I DID do XYZ.  Now I’m confused.  Will you just confirm it to me one more time, Lord?  Arrrrgh.  I really don’t want to do XYZ.  I know!  I will just wait it out.  If you really want me to do XYZ, God, just tell me again so I can make sure I got it right.  For now I’ll stick with ABC.  You just let me know.”

So, here’s what happens.  God, in His grace, either speaks to you on something or moves you past an area of sin.  You ride this wave for a couple of days:


and before the swift river can slow back down, with the wind still blowing through your hair, you start to do this:


Normalcy bias sets in, we start looking around at the world around us and who is NOT doing XYZ, and we begin to doubt what God said to us in the first place, OR, in the case of sin, we marginalize its significance (“it’s not really that bad, everybody does it” kinda thing).

This trick is as old as history itself.  What was the way that the serpent tempted Eve?  He asked her, “Did God really say, “You must not eat from any tree in the garden?””  And there it is.  Normalcy bias.  “Did God reeeeeeally say that?”  Before you know it, we give the thing a little time, and then a little turns into a little bit more, and then more than that, and then a long time.  Then, before you know it, either the opportunity has passed or we are back in the shackles of our sin.  “…the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind.  For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways” (James 1:6-7).  Following through with God’s calling is a faith test.  And, it requires a good, heaping bunch of the stuff.  But here’s what’s so awesome– check THIS out:

  • Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses (talking about the Old Testament heroes), let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith” (Heb 12:2)
  • “For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.”  (Rom 12:3)
  • “So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.”  (Rom 10:17)

The faith that is needed to be obedient to Christ is a GIFT.  Jesus founded our faith and perfects our faith.  God has assigned you a certain measure of faith (CRAZY!), and that faith comes from hearing (or reeeeeeeeading) His word!  So just like we use our dam demolisher to break down our dams:


We use the same tool to help us keep the faith that is required to be obedient to Him.


One more thing….don’t even pull the “well what if He didn’t give me enough faith to do it?”

To you, I say this! “His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence” (2 Peter 1:3).  He always equips the sent!

So guess what I’m going to tell you to do now?  Yup..go on and get reading!  Pray that the Holy Spirit will give you insight.  Then, be bold honey!  Have faith, DO IT!  I dare you!

Normalcy Bias- Part Two

Good morning, ladies!

So, yesterday we introduced the concept of the normalcy bias and how that can keep us from growing in our faith.  Let’s not let the unfamiliar words leave us confused (yesterday, my husband said, “I loved your post about l;ksdjfoawiejfalwkefj”) but instead just try to break down some simple truths.  Normalcy bias is, simply put, a person’s tendency to “normalize” things or events that are out of the “normal.”  To begin, we talked about how the world we live in is anything BUT normal, and when we dull God’s majesty, our growth can be stunted.

Moving forward now, I want to talk about what I have observed as two very powerful types of normalcy bias in my own spiritual life.  These little nuggets are so precious to me, as recognizing them in my life has helped me to move past sin and into stronger relationship with Him.

If you haven’t been introduced to Saintly Sally yet, please start there.  I’m going to use her to illustrate.

Remember Sally?  She was moving down the Faith River when she hit a dam, or wall, that kept her from moving closer to her destination, Maturity.  Let’s take it back to the dam and have a look at how normalcy bias can mess Sally up.


So, our friend Sally comes to a dam.  For me, these dams generally are one of two things:

  1. An area of sin that either needs to be confessed or demolished or both (usually both.  In fact, pretty much always both.)
  2. A command from God.  This is usually something that I feel God has pressed on my heart to do or say (never contradicting scripture).

Now, I want us to look at the two types of normalcy bias.  Remember, these are just observations from my own tendencies, not necessarily hard and fast truths across the board.  There are probably many more types!

  • Type 1- This type of normalcy bias happens in FRONT of the dam (before the thing is demolished).
  • Type 2- This type of normalcy bias happens BEHIND the dam (after the thing is demolished).

Let’s look at Type 1 today and what it looks like when the dam is sin, and what it looks like when the dam is a command.  Enter Sally.  Here’s what she might be thinking to herself in each of these situations:

Type 1 Normalcy Bias with SIN that needs to be CONFESSED:

Sally:  “Ugh.  This thing is just wearing me down.  I feel so guilty.  But, was it really all that bad, what I did?  I mean, Worldly Wanda does it all the time.  You know what, if I confess this sin, all it’s going to do is bring more harm than good.  It’s just going to really hurt someone’s feelings.  It would be better for me to just shoulder all of the guilt of it for the rest of my life so I don’t have to hurt So-And-So.  Yes, I will be the martyr.  I will just hold it in to spare so-and-so the pain of knowing what I have done.  After all, I’m never going to do it again anyway.  It was only that once.  Oh, and that other time too.  But that’s it.  I think.  Well, maybe more.  But it doesn’t matter now because I’m not going to do it again anyway.  You know what?  All this guilt is not good.  I don’t think guilt is from the Lord so I am just going to have to do my best to forget about this nagging guilt.  Get really busy.  Think about something else.  I know!  Maybe I can do something really nice for so-and-so!  That would make me feel better, AND would be lovely for them!  Yes, what a great idea.  AHH there it is again!  That constant nagging!  Think about something else….Disneyland…Disneyland….Disneyland….”

Now, not that I have aaaaaaany experience at all with what Sally is thinking, but I wonder if any of you do…….?

I LIE!  I have SO much experience with that one!  GIRL let me TELL YOU!  This is the ONE AREA that continually lights me on fire.  Normalcy bias tries to take healthy conviction and shove it under the carpet.  Then, the conviction turns into GUILT because more and more sin is being committed each time it isn’t confessed!  The BIGGEST PERIODS of growth in my life have happened DIRECTLY AFTER I have just humbled myself, said “you know what, God?  I don’t even care anymore!  I just want to live for you, and I’m going to trust you to clean up the mess that I’ve made.”  My heart starts beating reaaaaally hard and fast, I confess the thing, and even if the ramifications of my sin are hard to deal with, I generally enjoy one of these periods:


Type 1 Normalcy Bias with SIN that needs to be DEMOLISHED:

Sally:  “I really shouldn’t do that.  I know its wrong.  I know what the Bible says about it.  Oh, shut up.  It’s not that big of a deal.  Look at Wordly Wanda!  She’s such a ******.  She does it way more than I do.  What a moron.  She really needs to get that under control.  I need to get that under control.  Wait, what?  No, seriously.  It’s not that bad.  You know what?  When I get older, I’ll stop.  I just need to XYZ first.  Then I won’t do it anymore.  I’m still young, and I’m just having a good time!  It’s not a big deal.  Stop being so legalistic.  Eww.  Yeah.  After I XYZ, then I’ll stop.  Because then, it won’t matter anymore anyway.  I am a Christian.  I may not be the best one around, but I do believe it.  Maybe I’ll start going to church soon, even. So my sin is covered anyway.  No big deal.”

I really have no idea what Sally is thinking about here, but if I did, I would tell you this:  THESE TRAINS OF THOUGHT are straight from the PIT of hell.  They are designed to keep you from freedom in Christ.  They trick you into thinking that being a believer is restrictive and no fun.  The truth, my friend, is that SIN is BONDAGE, and RELEASE from sin brings freedom.  God LOVES you and wants you to be free from slavery!  He’s already paid the price to set you free!  But we walk right back into the jail cell and willingly put back on the shackles of sin.  “Ugh, why does God want me to go out THERE?  I’m happy right here in my cell!  Joe-Schmoe is in here with me!  And he’s so cool!”  Seriously.  We are so lame.  And your enemy just sits back and snickers.  Like that stupid dog.  Teeheeeheeehee.

Here’s the deal.  If this is where you’re at, and you’re letting these types of thoughts pile up in your brain, you are being massively deceived, loved one.  Get mad at it.  Get mad at your sin and come boldly face-to-face with the truth.  If you think you might be ready to face your junk, let me recommend something to you that has helped me to see it all more clearly.  Go to a quiet place and look in a mirror.  Who is looking back at you?  Is she the woman that God wants her to be?  Is she the same woman on Friday night that she is on Sunday morning?  Take stock of where you’re at on the walk.  And, if you’re not where you should be, it’s time to do some Dam Demolishing.  Do you remember how we do that?


Scripture.  Look up a topic that is relevant to your situation in the back of your Bible and start to just let some truth sink into your brain.  It will probably sting a little, or maybe a lot, but there’s healing on the other side of that sting.  You can even just Google “Bible verses about such-and-such.”  This requires some boldness, sweet one.  Sometimes facing the word is the hardest part.  But no matter what it is, sex, addiction, drunkenness, lying, pride, food issues, pornography, guilt, lust, idolatry, manipulation, a combo of those, all of those, whatever…God provides you a way out.  “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man.  God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” (2 Corinthians 10:13)  (Two things here- #1- don’t focus on a smaller issue to try to divert your attention from a larger one.  #2- don’t look at the list and think “Well I don’t have that problem…it’s not so bad….all LIES.  Don’t ask me how I knoooooow.)  He is so good to us.  Can you just let yourself be UNCOOL for a minute, get bold, and face your sin?  But, sorry.  I won’t be able to help you.  I have never dealt with any of those things.  Okay, maybe one or two.  Or maybe all of them.  I don’t know.  Normalcy bias LIES to you and tells you that your sin is okay and not that big of a deal.  Who is the father of lies? (John 8:44)  Let’s not give him any more power over us.

Okay- that was a lot.  I don’t want to move on to the Type 1- Command issue and possibly give you something to divert your brain from the sin issue.  Not that I know all about that little trick or anything.  So I’m going to leave it there today.  This is a big deal, loved one.  I remember facing some of my biggest dams and just getting into a hot shower, letting the water wash away the tears and shame of my sin.  Take it down the drain. Maybe you can let yourself do the same today.  I am so praying that the Holy Spirit’s power is woven through the words of this post and that He does a mighty work in someone’s heart today.  I am praying for your strength and for your boldness.

“Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin.  For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me.  Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight, so that you are proved right when you speak and justified when you judge.  Surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me.  Surely you desire truth in the inner parts; you teach me wisdom in the inmost place.  Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.  Let me hear joy and gladness; let the bones you have crushed rejoice.  Hide your face from my sins and blot out all my iniquity.  Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”  Psalm 51:2-10

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Normalcy Bias- Part One

There’s a phenomenon that tends to happen at the onset of large-scale disaster called “normalcy bias.”  Some of you may have heard this term on the news when the big hurricanes are about to hit and people just hang out in their houses.  Basically, the thought of what could happen is so extreme that it becomes unbelievable to a person, and he/she begins to think that it couldn’t possibly happen to them, so they just go on as if everything were normal.  We see this type of behavior in many other areas as well…teenagers who think that their actions have no consequences, adults engaging in knowingly harmful behavior and then being surprised at its effects, countries that turn a blind eye toward horrendous human atrocities.  The normalcy bias has, sadly, become the American way.

This phenomenon leeches out into our everyday lives and wreaks havoc on our spiritual growth.  I want to explore with you a few different ways that normalcy bias absolutely ruins our faith.  I’m going to skip OOC Wednesday tomorrow…I feel so strongly that God really wants to teach us all something here and I want to make sure that I give it enough space and time to come through to you.  Before we begin, can I ask you a favor?  I’d like for you to please stop now and pray that the Lord would make these words real and clear to you and that he gives me the appropriate words to share with you.  This is so dear to me, my friends, because these realizations are some of the ways that God pushed me past some of the walls I had built and are also many times the hindrances that keep me from effectively applying the truths that He teaches me.  Recognizing the normalcy bias in your faith life, in my experience, can be a key to finding the “narrow path” and staying on it.  I want you to take these things with you today into your daily walk and see how they affect your belief in who God is and what He speaks to you.  Normalcy bias, quite literally, makes us stupid.

There are so many facets of this that are hardcore truths, but I’d like to start today by just shaking the earth you stand on a little bit (for those of you North San Diegans, more than the booms from Camp Pendleton last night).  If we are to combat normalcy bias in our lives, we have to TOTALLY SHRED the thought that our lives are anything but normal.  Here are a few things to think about:

1.  Right now, as we speak, you are sitting on top of a ball that is spinning around itself and another ball.  It is not attached to a piece of fishing wire hanging from a crossbar.  You, now, are perched on top of a huge floating orb, and you are not falling off.  Nor are the people on the other side of it.  Now, that just makes me want to grab on to a pole or something.

2.  You have two balls inside of your head that are somehow wired to your brain allowing them two see.  Somehow, the two balls can filter light in some crazy way that allows your brain to register images and colors of the things around you.  That’s a mind-bender.

3.  This fish exists:


4.  So do these ones:


5.  So does this bird of paradise (it puffs out flat like this to attract a mate):


6.  The Hubble Telescope leads astrophysicists to estimate that there are hundreds of billions of galaxies in the universe.  This is the central region of the Milky Way, the galaxy that contains our solar system:


The same God who made billions of galaxies and the blobfish in the ocean’s darkest depths made YOU.  Knows your name.  Has numbered the hairs on your head.  There is nothing normal about that at all.

“When I look at your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, and the son of man that you care for him?” (Psa 8:3-4).  Forreals.

See, to understand how normalcy bias wrecks us, we can start with just the world around us.  “The heavens declare the glory of God, and the sky above proclaims his handiwork” (Psalm 19:1).  The creation is SCREAMING His glory.  He has created it ALL.  He is MORE glorious than all of the heavens in their most illustrious grandeur and their teeniest, minutest details.  We are so wrapped up in ourselves, in our feelings, in our circumstances that we lose sight of the utter majesty of it all.  “Sarah said such-and-such.” “Can you believe what Rose did?  How dare she.”  “I can’t believe I had to do such-and-such.  Ugh.”  Ugh is right.  We are so self-centered!  Bleck!

Everything in creation screams glory to Him.  From the fingerprints on my baby girl’s pinky to the far reaches of oblivion, God is master.  Maker of all things.  Can he not, then, handle your worries?  Surely you can do a better job than he.

Destroying normalcy bias in our faith starts with shattering our illusions of control.  We make poor gods.  Contemplating his grandeur should make our heads hurt and our bodies fall flat to the ground in worship.  Pressed down, even.  As low as we can get.

“Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:6-7

Tomorrow we’ll start looking at more of the specific ways that normalcy bias keeps us from fullness, but for now, just bathe yourself in his majesty.  You are so loved.