“Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” Colossians 4:5-6
Have you ever been egged on in the wrong direction? Perhaps someone has done you wrong. Although the Spirit whispers in your ear, “good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense” (Proverbs 19:11), the spark of injustice just wants to catch on to some fuel somewhere and start the fires of offense a-burnin’. In that moment, we know just who to call. Do we call Saintly Sally who is going to instinctively respond with sound and faithful instruction because she is a woman of the word? Probably not. Nope, we scroll through our contacts and find Salacious Sarah, one whom we can be confident will share in our piteous affliction and offer up a nice little dose of gasoline to grow that flame to epic proportions. Fire feels good. And sometimes we just want to feel something. This is why drama queens exist. They are addicted to emotional swings- highs, lows, OMG’s, she-did-what’s?, oh-no-he-didn’ts and oh-girl-kick-him-to-the-curbs. Not that I know, or am…er, uh…. one or something.
Paul tells us in Colossians to be wise in the way act– toward unbelievers in particularly. We don’t want to add more fuel to their fires. If an unbeliever has issues with anxiety, our speech should not lead them to more anxiety (Pr 12:25- “An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.) If they have anger issues, our responses to them shouldn’t incite their anger further (Pr 15:1- “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”). If they are battling depression, we don’t want to deepen their pit (Pr 16:24- “Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”).
The Proverbs are chock-full of verses about drama queens. It has another word for them. Fools.
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control. Proverbs 29:11
When we’re handed a juicy little morsel, we can join right on in and start wagging an oh-don’t-even-get-me-started-on-that finger, and we become just what we sound like. Fools. The Bible also calls us perverted. “A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends” (Proverbs 17:28). Yup, foolish, perverted drama queens.
Oh, how beautiful it would be to have a heart that the Scriptures describe. Lord, may it be. “He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends” (Proverbs 17:9).
I’m praying that the Lord changes this drama queen and gives me instead a heart that wants to cover an offense up–just throw a fire blanket right over the top of it. Promote love instead of dissension. Endorse unity instead of division. That in each situation, rather than passing a rather tasty little morsel along to another, or joining in on the “I’m offended” pity party, I’ll just have a heart like His, and cover it up in love. That all of my speech would be full of grace– kind-hearted and peace-making, and that it would be perfectly seasoned with the salt of the Word, making it palatable for even the pickiest eaters. Praise be to God, the only One who can transform us by the renewing of our minds!